This is the original article that I meant to post yesterday, but when I had finished writing it I noticed it had gone from being very diplomatic and objective to crude and subjective. In other words, I lost my temper and started ranting and raving like a mad man.
Fortunately my wife found it OK and had no objections about me publishing it.
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I could for sure go on about forever what I am going to tell you in a few minutes (or seconds, depends on how fast you can read). I’ve tried to keep it to a minimum, because I feel I’ve ranted enough lately, but it’s kind of a personal matter (for some of the persons involved).
My wife and I admit that we have put ourselves in a difficult situation by not being able to save enough money before we came here. In the end it was a choice between losing my visa, that already cost us a lot of money and time, or take the chance and come, like we did. It didn’t turn out as we hoped, but we are at least trying our best.
This has of course ended up with me scratching my head about why it’s so difficult to find work in Australia, when I could almost get any job I wanted back in Europe. This has led to that we have had to ask for some help from both our families. It’s not something you want to do or should be proud of, but sometimes you just have to swallow your pride. Especially when only my wife is entitled to get economical help from the government (my visa refuses me any economical help the first two years in Australia), which is about 10 USD lower than our weekly rent.
My wife is going to get a masters degree in audiology, while I’m going (if I get accepted) to get a bachelor degree (and even a masters if it’s possible) in biomedical science. Two degrees I think most people would find worth taking if you can do it.
My wife’s sister and her husband decided to give birth to their unexpected offspring, which their mother is completely mesmerised with. These two (and the kid) get economical help from the government and some extra cash from my in-laws, because they have a kid to take care of, and no questions asked because of that. Barely able to hold down a job when offered one and their economical future looking pretty grim at the moment.
Here is the what is so funny, or fucked up if you ask me, with this situation. My wife and I when we both finish our degree and start working we will for sure have the economic power to start paying our parents back in a short period of time; but when my wife asks for help, without me having anything to do with that, she gets the third degree about it. We, who will eventually have a stable economical future, gets chastised for asking for help so we can realise that future; while two bludgers get off easy because they decided to have a kid when non of them had enough money to take care of themselves. The so-called father were actually going to get a good degree, but dropped out, as usual.
To sum it up, we get shit for wanting to have a secure future, while those to almost get praised for fucking up their own future and being a big burden on my wife’s parents. Honestly, what’s wrong with some people?
No wonder there are so many idiots in the world when people enable this type of pathetic behaviour! I guess this is the attitude of the new generation, do whatever you want and don’t care about anyone but yourself. Don’t work hard for anything, just be a big mooch on the government and the people around you. It sounds disgusting, but maybe we need a bloody new world war to make people appreciate life again and stop being so damn selfish and self-absorbed.
I guess being a baby factory is far more important than getting a proper education.
News flash, people have given birth to babies for decades, centuries and millenniums now. It’s not a miracle anymore! Any woman can lie down on her back, spread her legs and have a man fill her with some sperm. It’s not rocket science.
You don’t have to be a brain surgeon either to understand it’s important to have economic stability before you squeeze a baby out, because it costs a lot taking care of a baby, and it takes time. Just because you gave birth doesn’t mean some hidden area in your brain got activated. If you were stupid before you gave birth to a child, you will still be as dumb as dog shit.
Hopefully my in-laws will wakeup one day and smell the coffee and realise what they are doing is wrong, but I hope more that my wife’s sister’s family can start acting a bit more mature and take responsibility for their own damn actions.
I’m well aware I sound like a grumpy old man with no feelings at all, but I’m not. I’m just sick and tired of people who take advantage of a situation without getting in trouble for it, but those who actually want to create a secure future for themselves get told to get their bloody life together.
If this madness doesn’t resolve itself I see no other solution to step in and speak my mind, no matter what the consequences are.
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This is more or less what is happening at the moment and why I might be in the mood I’m in lately. I’m not asking for sympathy, I just want to get this off my chest. Who knows, we might not be the only ones in this type of situation; where the family favours the unemployed new parents rather than the couple who might be part of important medical and scientific research in the future.
Also ignore any odd grammar, as I haven’t had my cuppa yet.
Posted on 06/11/2009 by Dr. W
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